I am sure that more than a few of you have had your heart broken at some point in your life and you know as well as I do that it is a horrible thing to go through. Part of what makes a break up, not be easier, but at least more manageable is having a good friend by your side to help your through it. So today I have a few tips for you that you can use to help a good friend or family member get over a break up.
Listen… And Then Listen Some More
Right after a break up your friend will be feeling very hurt, emotional and in general not know what to do with them self. They need you more than ever to sit there and just listen to what they have to say. Listen to them vent, talk about the person, say they still love them. No matter what they are saying you need to be there and listen to them just so they can get out all these emotions they are feeling. Helping them get them out is great as it stops them from bottling them all up.
Remind Them How Amazing They Are!
When you get “dumped” it’s very common to then think that there is something wrong with you and that if you had different colored hair, were thinner, liked football or a million other things that they would have stayed. Well, as the friend it’s your duty to remind them that they do not need to change a thing about them and then remind them about all the qualities that make them such a good friend and that will make them a real catch to another guy down the line.
Make Time For Them
I am not saying ignore your own partner here, but your friend now will have a ton more free time because the time they spent with their partner is now just them on their own. Try and be there as much as possible for them. Go to the gym, go round for dinner just be there to talk on the phone. They are going to be lonely and have a vast amount of time to themselves so try and fill up as much of this time as possible.
Get Her To Do Something!
Was there something that she stopped doing when she was in the relationship? Or something that she loved to do, but did not do as much as she would have liked? Well, use this time to try and get her into whatever it was again. Let her know that now she has more time to dedicate to her hobbies and that if she wants, you will do them with her!
Call In Back Up!
As much as you want to be there for them and as much as you are willing to do it, you cannot be the only one there for them! As it can have a huge emotionally draining effect on you. Call in a few other friends to have a girls night so they can also spend some time with them as well. Use this time to bond as friends and focus on the good times rather than the break up your friend just went through.
Get Out Of The House!
While the early days may be spent on the sofa eating chocolate or ice cream, you want to try and break this habit as soon as you can. Get them out of the house and doing something active. Go to the gym, a spinning class or even just go to the spa for the day. But the point is you do want to help them get into the habit of emotionally eating their problems away.
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