Hey guys today I want to talk to you about spending quality times with your kids and why it’s so important. Now I am not saying my life was like the song Cats In The Cradle, but the fact is me and my dad did not spend a great deal of time together when I was growing up. I do have some wonderful memories, but we were never really that close. So I wanted to make sure that I spent as much quality time with my own kids as possible. I am not writing a guide or advice or anything like that today. These are just some thoughts, ramblings to whatever you want to call them and if you can relate to them or take something from them, then that is cool with me.
Time Spending With Kids Is Better Than Money Spending On Them
Some people think that spending their money on say video games for their kids is better than spending time with them. As a kid I was a huge video game player and my dad would often come home from work throw me a new game, I would say thanks and he would be on his way out of my room. I honestly do not remember many of the games he bought me, but I do remember one, R-Type. And that is because he actually played the game with me and we would sit having fun together while playing the game. That memory I have as a 11 year old kid playing R-Type with my dad is far better than anything he bought me.
You Do Not Have To Be Glued To Your Kids 24/7
I work and sometimes I am at work for longer than I would like. So on occasion by the time I get home it can be getting late. On days like this all it takes is to pop into your kids room ask them how they are doing and take an interest in their day. Just taking five or ten minutes to go and speak to them on their own not only shows you care about them, but it also helps strengthen your bond. Some people like to spend every minute of every day with their kids, but this can lead to them feeling smothered which is something you do not want to happen.
Go & Have A Surprise Day Out
We would take family holidays every year, but more than that I remember the few times that I would be in the house and my dad would tell me to grab my coat as we were as he liked to put it “heading out”. Now this did not happen often, but being taken to the go kart track or even for a walk with the dog up the woods are things I remember. I wanted these same experiences with my kids so even if money is tight and they are just sitting glued to their TV, I will tell them that we are heading out even if it’s just for a walk.
Spending Time With Kids Now Leads To A Stronger Relationship Later
I am a firm believer that if you do not spend quality time with your kids when they are young, that when they become adults they will probably be less bothered about making an effort to spend time with you. Put the time in now and make those memories that you can share with each other as they get older and start to have a family of their own. And hopefully if you have spent enough positive time with them, they will want the same with their own children.