Having a baby is a wonderful thing for any couple, and as much joy you and your partner are filled with and as much fun as having a baby is. The fact is when you have a baby, the baby becomes number one priority in the relationship. And everything about the relationship revolves around the baby. Now this is not a bad thing, but it can lead to you and your partner kind of ignoring each other and forgetting to spend time and have fun together. Here I have some tips for keeping your relationship sun and sexy after the baby has come.
Little Things Go Even Further After A Baby
Never stop doing the little things that make a relationship special. What I am talking about here are simple things such as just making a point to say “I love you”. Or just saying, “hey you look amazing today” or even going to the kitchen and grabbing them a drink. It does not have to be anything major, but all these little things can add up and keep you two intimate on a small level. The early days of parenting can be stressful so make sure you are there for each other and trying to put a smile on each other’s faces, especially when you have been up all night with the baby.
Bed Time Is Your Time
You need to get your baby into a night time routine as early as possible. Not only does this make your lives as parents easier by establishing a routine with the kid, but it also ensures that you and your partner have a few hours where it is just you two spending time together. Just do things like watching a movie together, having a glass of wine or maybe going to bed yourselves (wink wink) but make sure you use the babies sleep time as your together time.
Keep Having A Date Nights
Most parents will swear by date night. Now I am not saying that it needs to be once a week (which would be great if you can) as some people simply do not either like to leave their baby with others that often and other simply do not have the access to child care, but at the very least once a month you and your partner need to get out of the house on your own, go have dinner, catch a movie, go party, just go out and have some fun like you used to before the baby was born. Having a date night to look forward to can make a tough week so much more tolerable.
Give Them Some Time Alone
Wait isn’t this article about making a relationship stronger? Well yes it is, but one great thing that you and your partner can do for each other is to take on all the parental responsibilities for one night and let your partner go hang out with their friends. This is a great way of showing that you care about each other. It’s important though that if you are the one who has had a “night off” that when you come home you give them a kiss and a cuddle as well as a thank you. Doing things to make each other is a vital way to keep the spark alive in a relationship.
Get Out And About Together
New parents will find that they spend many more hours cooped up in the house. This can lead to you become stir crazy and pretty soon, small petty arguments can start. Make it a point to get out of the house as much as possible. Put the baby in a stroller and go for a walk around the block, the woods, the city or whatever. And if it’s raining it can be tempting to not want to go out, but head somewhere that is indoors like go for a walk around a mall or something.
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