No one wants to be cheated on, it’s a horrible feeling and one that can stick with you for a lifetime. Sometimes though we get a feeling that all is not right with our relationship and that our partners are “stepping out on us” Now I am not saying your partner is cheating, but here we have some things to look for that may indicate their eye is wandering! Just remember that the best way to confront your partner is to be honest with them. Come out and ask them, but if you need a little evidence here are some things you can look for.
Red Flag That Your Partner Is Cheating On You : They Are Stand Offish
You notice that there is less talking between you and that they want to do more of their own things like hanging out with “friends” more. A movie that you both want to check out, they go and see it on their own. They say they need more space and talk about doing things on their own rather than together with you.
Red Flag : They Have Lost Interest In You
They never really ask about your day, what your feelings are, what is going on with you and so on. And when you do mention something that is bugging you they just brush it off as if it’s no big deal. They even seem to have lost interest in sex! In general they just seem to have no interest in your daily life or spending any time with you.
Red Flag : They Get Defensive
When a partner cheats one way that they try to defuse the situation is by making you out to be the bad one. It can be something as simple as you asking them how their day went and they get all defensive trying to turn the conversation onto you. They can start to pick fights and get you to even start fights. This in many cases is their way of justifying what they are doing and in essence saying to pushed them to the affair.
Red Flag : They Never Have Their Phone Out Of Their Hands
If they are always texting or are online and never put down their phone then there could be something happening. If they are spending so much time communicating with other people online or through text that it’s having an effect on your relationship then something has to be wrong.
Red Flag : They Have A Secret Online Life
They are on the computer, you walk in the room and they act all agitated and get defensive. You do not have to be Sherlock Holmes to realize that they are looking at something they do not want you to see. Blocking things you can see on their social network accounts, making new friends and setting up new email addresses and social network accounts are all ways to keep you out of this new life they are building.
Red Flag : They Take More Pride In Their Appearance
They start to spend more on getting nicer clothes, smelling better and in general making a real effort with their appearance. Yet when they are with you they make no effort what so ever. You have to ask yourself why are they getting so dressed up if they are just say “hanging out with friends”!
Cheating is never a good thing, but there must be something missing in the relationship to make a person look elsewhere. Sure sometimes people are just no darn good, but for the most part there will be a deep and underlying reason as to why a person cheats. While it can be heartbreaking if you are the one cheated on try your best to not let it define your life and who you are. Also if you are the one with the wandering eye then do the right thing and either end your relationship or end the messing around and try to fix your relationship.