Getting cheated on is one of the worst things that can happen to a person. It is also horrible if you catch one of your good friends, partner, husband, fiancé or whatever cheating on them. Knowing what to do in a situation like this is really tough as no matter what you do, if you keep quiet or if you tell them, you will feel bad. Here are some things to think about when you need to tell a friend that they are being cheated on.
Make Sure You Are Right!
You cannot open your mouth unless you are 101 percent certain that they are cheating. So do not just take someone else’s word for it. Unless you have seen first-hand or have some kind of undeniable evidence that they are cheating then you need to keep quite. Going to them, telling them that their partner is cheating and then having it be absolutely nothing will in most cases destroy your friendship. So let me say it again, say nothing unless you are certain there is something going on.
Now getting a semen sample or using some kind of investigative kit that you would see in CSI is not going to happen. But you need to have some kind of evidence be it a photo, phone call, text message or whatever that shows your friend that there is something going on. No matter how good friends you are, no one wants to believe their partner is stepping out on them and will try and convince themselves you are wrong. You need to show them cold hard proof! Saying something like, “I did not want to tell you until I could prove it” is a good idea.
Tell The Cheater, You Know What They Are Doing
One thing that many people will do is go to the person who is cheating and tell them to come clean in say a day or that they will go and expose their cheating. This can work out much better for you than you having to be the one to break the news. If they do not tell them, then I would recommend giving them another last gasp chance to do it or that is that. Make sure you let them know, you will not let them hurt or make a fool of your friend.
Find A Quiet Place To Talk
Do not invite your friend for lunch at their favorite place to break this kind of news. Or even a really public place. You want to make sure the place where you are going to tell them is pretty isolated and that you will be alone. Maybe ask them to come to your place or go for a walk in the park, but make sure that you tell them you have something serious you need to tell them.
Do Not Dance Around The Issue
When you do sit down with them and are getting ready to break this to them, keep in mind that this information is going to shatter their world. So the last thing you want to do is start with some small talk about last night’s episode of Parks & Recreation. Just jump in say how hard it is for you to tell them this, but you need to do it because they are your friend and you love them. No beating around the bush, get straight to the point!