A toxic friendship is a horrible thing to be in. When I say a toxic friendship I am talking about the kind of thing where a “friend” does nothing, but drag you down, make you feel terrible. Or maybe they are just really selfish and never think about you and everything has to be about them. I think that the majority of us in our adult lives have encountered at least one so called friend like this. The problem is getting rid of a toxic person like this from your life without making you seem horrible in the process. Please read on to get some tips on how to put a stop to a toxic friendship.
Stop Making Excuses
The first thing you need to do to put a stop to a toxic friendship is realize that his person is dragging you down. They can be a drama queen, selfish or just use you. No matter what you need to realize that you need to stop making excuses for them. One of the reasons that some people are terrible friends is that people accept it and never call them out on it. No more excuses, if you know they are bad for you accept it.
Try To Fix Things
Once you have accepted they are a toxic friend you may want to try and save the friendship by working through it. If you have a friend who calls you ten times a day to complain about her boyfriend again or uses you for other things. You can try to save the friendship by setting boundaries for the friendship. Let them know that while you want to be their friend you can no longer be at their call 24 hours a day and that you can no longer help them if they are not willing to help themselves.
Tell Them You No Longer Want To Be Friends
If they do not take your new boundaries on board then you will have to end your friendship, but you need to do this in the right way. While they may have been a brutal and for some of you, a terrible friend, that does not mean that you have to be nasty or give them false messages when you want to end your associating with them. Tell them straight up that you no longer want to spend any time with them as they are just always bringing you down and it’s not healthy for you to be around them. Let them know that you no longer can be there for them as it is hurting you to do so. No mixed messages with them, that is not fair. Just be straight to the point, it may he hard to do and there may be a lot of tears, shouting and hurt feelings, but this will end the friendship.
Slowly Break Off Contact
If you cannot tell them face to face then you can slowly fade away from their life. This may take a while to do, but slowly stop answering their calls, always be busy when they want to hang out and before long the friendship will hopefully just fade away. This may not be the most honest, quick and up front way to break off contact, but at least you can do it without hurting their feelings. Think about it. We all have had friendships in the past that for no reason just seem to stop over time. You can end a toxic friendship this way.