When a couple breaks up most of the time for you, you take the side of the person you are friends with. But what if it just so happens you are good friends with both the guy and the girl? Well this can lead to a very awkward situation for you and have both of then trying to get you on their side. Here are a few tips for dealing with the drama that comes when two of your friends break up!
Do Not Pick A Side
The hardest thing to do when you have two good friends break up is not pick a side. They will both probably think that you are more of their friend that the other person and it can be so hard not to pick a side. But if you are really friends with both of them then you need to let them know that you love them both and you will not pick a side.
Think Before You Invite
As you are friends with them both they are probably both going to want to hang out with you. You need to be smart about this for example if you are having a night out and you know that she is going then for the love of god do not invite him along as well. Also do not just invite one of them everywhere while ignoring the other one. It can be a tough juggling act, but if you want to remain close with both of them then you need to think before you commit to doing things.
You Are Not The Middle Woman
I am speaking from experience here my friends. No matter what do not get stuck in the middle of being the person who delivers messages between the two of them. The first time one of them asks you to tell the other one something say NO. If you have to deliver some bad news, something spiteful and hurtful then the saying “shoot the messenger” will certainly apply! Let’s say that she wants to keep the dog and asks you to tell him. Who do you think he is going to be angry with first? The person delivering the bad news of course!
Fights Will Happen
In a perfect world most break ups would be respectful and just have people go their separate ways without any real drama. Of course this is the real world and more often than not there will be at least one big blow up argument. And if you are friends with them both then good luck trying to stay out of that tornado. Being in the middle of a screaming match between two people you love is horrible. Truth be told all you can do is try to defuse the situation and calm it down before trying to separate them.
Do Not Get Pulled Into A Trash Talking Night
When people split up they like to vent about how crappy their partner was. This is a great and a fantastic way for a person to get things of their chest… But if you are friends with both parties it can put you in a horrible position. You can bet that what you say will somehow make it back to the other person! Just let them vent and speak to you, just say nothing and do not agree or disagree with what they are saying.
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