Ugh, there is not a word strong enough for how much I hate housework. But the trouble is I like a clean house so I really have no choice. Sometimes I feel like my partner and the kids have a secret club where they come up with ways to make a mess! Now my partner would let me clean the house all by myself, but I am no way having that! A relationship is an equal partnership so keeping the house clean is both our responsibilities. Well over time and without a great deal of nagging I have now managed to get them to help around the house and here are a few ways you can do the same.
Have A Chore List
One way is to have a list of chores, now no doubt you will still end up doing the majority of the housework, but at least you have your partner chip off a few things. Write down things like put out the garbage, do the dishes, yard work and whatever. Things that they are most likely going to do without kicking up much of a fuss.
Ask Them To Help!
This is a big one, I said in the intro that I would just be left to clean the house without them lifting finger to help. Now as crazy as this sounds, this was not done because they were lazy or they did not care about me. They simply did not think I wanted or needed help! When I ask they will do a little here and there, but just because they are not helping does not mean they are not willing to. It can be just a case of they do not even think about doing it! Also ask them what kind of chores that they would like to do. Of course no one likes doing chores, but there will be some more than others they will be happy to do.
Tell Them You Appreciate Their Help
Make sure you make it a point to say thank you when they take out the garbage or when they cut the grass. Or if you do ask them to a certain chore make sure you thank them for doing it. I found that once I started doing this. I in turn would get a thank you every once and a while for doing chores around the house.
Be Flexible About When Chores Are Done
What I am talking about here is in the timing of the chores. You ask them to put the garbage out, but an hour later it’s still there. This does not mean that they are not going to do it. It just means they have not got to it yet. You cannot ask them to do something and then demand that it be done in a certain amount of time. I mean if it does get to the next day and they still have not done it, then fair enough you may have a point to remind them, but you have to give them the chance to do the chore on their own time before you get on their case.
Let Them Do Chores They Are Good At
I tried to get them to do the ironing and let me just tell you that was a huge mistake on my part, but they did try. It got to the point where it was quicker and better for me to do some things myself. But if your partner is simply no good at cleaning or taking care of the house then instead get them to take charge of things like doing the grocery shopping, sorting the bills and so on. This way this is less you have to do and it gives them some household responsibility.