So you have met the man or woman of your dreams and everything is just amazing. You two could not be any more happy, but getting serious with someone does not mean you are just letting them into your life. It also means that you are letting their folks and the rest of their family into your life as well! Dealing with the in laws can sometimes be tough, especially if they are difficult. But today we have a few tips for you guys to help you deal with your in laws.
Talk About “In Laws’ Issue” With Your Other Half
Never in a million years put your partner in a situation where they have to choose between you or them. This is a horrible and unfair situation to put a person in. Whatever the issue is you are having with your in laws, talk it out with your spouse to try and come up with a way together to either fix the problem or just deal with it. Always remember that even if you do not get on with your in laws, your partner will love them, so any “nasty” things you say about them they will probably take very personal. And then you will not only have issues with the in laws, but your partner as well! This can be avoided by just telling them your issues.
Talking To Them Directly Can Resolve Some In Laws’ Problems
If you have a question to ask them it is best if you ask them directly rather than through your spouse or partner. If say your sister in law did or said something that really bothered you. By getting your spouse to talk to her makes it seem like you are being a tattle tale and can cause even more problems. Talk to them directly about the issue. You are family after all now and family should talk to each other about their problems. Also by talking to them directly and letting them know you are not happy with what they did, they are less likely to do it again to try and walk over you in the future.
Do Not Change For The Sake Of Your In Laws
Your partner fell in love with the person you are, not the person that their parents want you to be. Far too many people will put on an act with their in laws. It’s ridiculous, just be yourself and let them see the reason why their son or daughter fell in love with you in the first place. It may take a while, but they will come around… and even if they do not at least you can hold you head high as you have always been true to yourself. As long as you smile and are polite and can be seen making an effort your partner will not care what they think.
Always Think About Your Partner & Kids
As much as you would like to go and grab the rolling pin and introduce it to your mother in laws face, always remember that, no matter what your feelings are for your in laws, that your partner and kids will think the world of them. And in many cases life is so much easier to just grit your teeth, smile and move on rather than dwelling on something that they have done to upset you. Even if they do drive you insane you do not want to sour the relationship your partner and kids have with them.