Thank god, my kids are past the temper tantrum stages… well, I say that they still have their moments, but I think as a parent, nothing in the world can prepare you for when you darling little 2-3 year old starts to develop their own personality, when they want something and you do not think it’s a good idea, they all of a sudden turn into Taz from Looney Toons. Today I want to share with you guys a few things that helped me survive those tantrums and, no, hiding in the closet is not one of them! 🙂
Stay Calm While Your Child Have A Tantrum
I know this is far easier said than done. I am lucky enough that I am a pretty relaxed person, but my son has the personality of his mother. He is fine one minute, but he goes from level 1 to level 10 on the tantrum scale without going through the rest of the numbers. He could be fine and then the next moment he is turning into The Hulk. You losing your own temper and going just as crazy as they are is just going to escalate the situation. Always stay calm and talk in a clear manner. Sometimes I think it’s best to take a few seconds grab a deep breath and then deal with the tantrum.
A Tantrum Is Not Always Because They Want Something
Many of us think a tantrum is because they are not getting their own way. But there could be another reason. It can be very frustrating for a child when they are trying to communicate to you, but you do not understand what they are trying to say. Also late afternoon, about 3PM seems to be a time kids all over the world go nuts. The reason for this is simple: they are tired and they may need a snack. Sometimes a tantrum can be cured as easily as letting them have a sit down with a cookie, drink or whatever. So just because your child is having a tantrum does not mean they are being naughty.
Give Them Choices & Reasons
If your child is going crazy because it’s nearly dinner time and they want ice cream, rather than yelling at them that “it’s nearly dinner time and you are not having ice cream” instead calmly tell them the reason why they cannot have ice cream and if they continue their tantrum then they will be sent to their room, naughty step, dungeon, alternate dimension, intergalactic prison or whatever it is you use. Let them know calmly that their tantrum is not acceptable and there will be consequences for it. If they do stop the tantrum, then be sure to congratulate them for being a “big” boy or girl.
Do Not Give In To The Tantrum
You have already done this and I have done this… many times. It can make your life just so much easier in the short term, to give into their tantrums and let them get their own way, but once you make a habit of this, then your child owns your butt! This is a very slippery slope and kids are very smart and will soon realize that throwing a tantrum has gotten them what they want in the past, so they will do it again. And it will not just be to you. If you set the example that by throwing a tantrum they get what they want, then they will think this is acceptable behavior to do in public and at school.
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