These days the dating scene can be pretty cut throat and scary for someone getting back into going on dates. There is the whole online dating scene that works out perfectly for people. But once you find a profile you like the look of and decide you want to meet up with them, then what? Today I have a simple five step plan of dates that can help you get to know a person, have some fun and most importantly of all be safe.
The first date or as I like to call it is the public date. The first time you go on a date with a person even if you already know them and especially if you have never met them before, should always be in a public place. As well as being in a public place you should be firm that you will get there on your own. Going for a bite to eat is a great first date and by driving yourself there is no awkwardness in the car and you are also being smart and safe!
If that first date went well then you move onto date number 2. This again to be honest should be a public date, a meal is always the best bet, but this time if you like the person then maybe add going to see a movie afterwards. This sets you up with something to talk about on the phone or through text messages or even on the very next date. The second date though should be just as cautious as the first.
For the third date you by now should know the person a little bit and know if you want to go on this third date with them. If there is a connection between the two of you, then you will probably have been emailing, texting, Facebooking or whatever with each other. Now you should be comfortable enough with them where you can travel with them to the next date. But still stay in control of the situation by insisting that you drive. Even if you have to make up some excuse like your car has been running weird and you want to drive it to make sure its ok now or something like that.
Now things should be going pretty good. You are getting to know each other well and if you are interested in a fourth date then there is clearly some kind of connection between the two of you. This time you should try and organize a date that is within walking distance from their home. The reason for this is so that you can walk them home… But do not go on with them, no matter how tempted you may be! A kiss on the cheek, goodnight and a “I need to be up early for work in the morning, but let’s do this again” is the perfect way to leave things.
Things are clearly going good between you two. Your previous four dates must have been pretty good to get to this point. So now you can invite them into you your place after the date. I am not for one moment saying you need to get sexual with them, but by letting them into your home for a “coffee” you are showing that you are comfortable with them.
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